Developmental trauma is the result of abandonment, abuse, and neglect during childhood that disrupts cognitive, neurological and psychological development and attachment to adult caregivers. Developmental trauma is often inflicted on infants and children unconsciously and most often without malicious intent by adult caregivers who are unaware of children’s social and emotional needs or caregivers have their own trauma, or daily stress that disables them from attuning to their child’s needs. This misattunement often shows up as a difficulty understanding and recognising one’s emotions. Low self esteem and a lack of self compassion. A powerful self-critic. Feelings of not being good enough and I don’t belong. A general feeling of emptiness and numbness. Difficulty trusting and relying on others, overgiving and extreme independence. Overacting to conflict either with intense anger, shame and fear or completely shutting down. A cycle of unhealthy relationships or avoiding relationships altogether. Everything feels hard.  Deep insecurity and a general feeling of “I’m different, I can’t put a finger on why but I know there is something wrong with me”. If this is you, know that you are not alone and you can heal, things can not only get easier, but can be more joyful and profound than you ever imagined.